Conversation Starters With Your Boyfriend

OVERVIEW

Meeting with your boyfriend can come with a lot of anxiety and you might be confused about what you are going to ask. The questions that you are going to ask depend on the objectives that you have for the new relationship. This article gives a sample of a few questions that you can ask as a conversation starter with your boyfriend, and is by no means exhaustive.

CONVERSATION STARTERS WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND

WHAT IS YOUR PURPOSE IN SOCIAL AND PROFESSIONAL LIFE?

Love is a good thing, and you can fall in love with anyone in life. Love does not have boundaries. It is good to be open minded and tolerant and interact with different kinds of people.

However, it is good that you have a person who is going to help you achieve personal and professional development. It is advisable that you choose someone that you can grow with, and not someone who you are going to make you stagnate. People have entered into relationships that have left them bruised and scarred, and the impact of the same has remained for years.

In Ancient Greece, Aristotle in the theory of teleology stated that everything has a purpose. Researchers state that people who do seek a purpose in life live a longer and a more quality life. This is a universal observation and is not dependent on variables such as social status and education. You should seek to establish if your partner has a purpose in life.

WHAT ARE YOUR HOBBIES?

The hobbies that your boyfriend enjoys can tell you a lot about him, his character, and his personality. Having a hobby, and more so a passionate one, shows that one can achieve work-life balance. This is also the time to evaluate if your partner has a hobby which could be financially devastating. For example, whereas gambling can be a hobby, it has destroyed people’s lives.

Remember that your happiness also depends on the happiness of your boyfriend. If your boyfriend’s life is ruined, this is also going to affect you, and this could also jeopardize the objectives that you two have together.

WHAT ARE YOUR VALUES IN LIFE?

The values in life are very important in ensuring that you live a happy and fulfilling life. If your partner has the wrong values in life, then, this is going to affect you too. For instance, you should not associate yourself with a partner who does not earn an honest living. At the same time, if one is a racist, then this is not going to be compatible to your personal values.

WHAT IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR FAMILY?

Unfortunately, people who have a broken relationship with their family members tend to transfer the same to their partner. Factors that contribute to broken families include drug abuse, divorce, and domestic violence. People from broken families tend to be bitter in life, and may transfer bile to others.

However, this should not deter you from loving such a boyfriend. All you need is a deeper understanding. People from broken families do not trust easily, and may feel that they do not deserve you. Others tend to withhold critical information and the topic of marriage could turn out to be an awkward topic. Therefore, you need to be a little patient with your partner as he opens up his heart to you, and if you can help, then do.

WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR IN A RELATIONSHIP?

Different people will seek a relationship for all the kind of reasons. For example, in the series the Haves and Have Nots by Tyler Perry, Veronica Harington does not like being lonely, and would rather have a man by her side than being lonely. Others are going to seek a relationship in order to have a regular sexual life.

Much as you are in love with your boyfriend, you must ask the question about the direction of your relationship. Do not assume that your boyfriend has the same views about your relationship as you do. Rather, ask a direct question, and evaluate the answer. Again, do not take the answer given as the gospel truth.

WHAT THINGS DO YOU LIKE?

Asking your boyfriend what he likes shows that you do care about him. At the same time, it shows that you are not selfish. It is the simple things in life that matter and not the big things. If you show your partner that you care about what he likes, then you are going to win trust from that person. For example, Cristiano Ronaldo, the Manchester United player, has a very close bond with his mother. It could be concluded that you cannot have a stable relationship with such a person without finding a way of involve the mother.

The presents that you give your partner should be given based on what they like. This is more so when it comes to the special days such as the birthday.

WHAT THINGS DON’T YOU LIKE?

There are things that some people do not like at all, and they cannot compromise about them. The things that people do not like are a product of socialization and past experiences. If you find that your partner does not like a certain thing, simply avoid it.

CONCLUSION

As you ask questions, note that having a listening ear is very important. Most of the people like a partner who is going to listen to them too. It is through listening and attention that one is able to pick out both verbal and non-verbal cues.

When you are having a conversational starter with your boyfriend, be as natural as possible. If you wear a different character from your normal self, it will not be sustainable. If you are doing the right thing, let your boyfriend love you for who you are.

At the same time, do not ignore the red flags that you may notice at the early stage of the relationship. If you ignore them, you are going to regret when the relationship gets to an advanced stage.