Supporting Your Partner With A Chronic Illness

written by A Real Couple
Being In A Relationship With Chronic Illness

My boyfriend and I met 3 years ago using the dating app, Tinder. Just a few hours before we matched and started chatting, I wanted to delete my dating apps due to the amount of, for lack of a better word, ‘losers’ I had met. I was looking for someone who wanted a genuine respectful relationship, not a Netflix and chill ‘relationship’. It was within the first few minutes of chatting with him, I just knew he was different. A few hours into conversation later, we exchanged phone numbers and funny enough, I did delete every one of my dating apps that night and never looked back.

Fast forward to Fall 2017. I started to get really ill and was bouncing from doctor to doctor, trying to figure out why I was so sick and having debilitating pelvic pain. I had to stop working and go on disability as my health and quality of life deteriorated. After a lot of research and doctor visits later, I was diagnosed with a bladder condition called Interstitial Cystitis/Bladder Pain Syndrome, Endometriosis and Pelvic Floor Dysfunction. Although these conditions aren’t life threatening, they are chronic and cause daily pain along with debilitating ‘flares’.

2018 has been a really difficult year for me personally but I would not be where I am today without my boyfriend. On top of my physical pain, mental health has been difficult to maintain as I cope with significant life changes but he has been my number one supporter from day one. He pushes me to get through the bad days and continuously tells me how strong I am and that I will get better. When I told him that I wanted to create my blog platform for women living with pelvic pain to be able to educate and create awareness and my dream of creating a pelvic health studio, he didn’t laugh or give me excuses for why it wouldn’t work, he supported it without hesitation.

When I got my diagnosis, I got scared and began to doubt that he would not want to be with someone who has a chronic illness. At one point, I even told him he is free to leave but he never did and we are still here and stronger than ever. I tell him almost daily how grateful I am to have someone as great as him in my life, and I never take anything he does for me for granted. A real positive that has come from being ill, is that it has shown me how my partner would react in the most trying times come the future. It’s been a massive eye opener to see that our relationship has been changed and affected by all this, but we have become closer and stronger as a couple.


Featured Couple: Michelle & Dylan

Story Teller: Michelle @the.happy.pelvis


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Hope Terry November 9, 2018 at 3:21 pm

I don’t know a more deserving couple! Both are such wonderful people.

Kirsten November 9, 2018 at 4:34 pm

Relationships depend so much on the support of each partner! Hearing the love and encouragement from both individuals during challenging times is truly inspiring.

Ben Skillings November 9, 2018 at 6:34 pm

Deserving seems more like an understatement at this point. Michelle and Dylan NEED this and deserve much more! Thanks for embracing vulnerability you two.

Danielle November 9, 2018 at 6:39 pm

Love how much this couple appreciates and cherishes one another!

Louise power November 9, 2018 at 7:11 pm

Relationships work when you support each other.You guys deserve this date night.

Tanya November 9, 2018 at 7:12 pm

Amazing!!! <3

Isabel Manery November 9, 2018 at 7:16 pm

Love your story, Michelle!

D Manery November 9, 2018 at 7:33 pm

What a beautiful story about two wonderful people.

Amy November 9, 2018 at 8:25 pm

Michelle has not only learned amazing things while being with her partner it seems , but has helped women like myself not feel so alone in the life of chronic pelvic pain . So deserving !

Ashlea November 10, 2018 at 12:29 am

Michelle is super inspiring. Love this story!

Jess November 10, 2018 at 7:09 am

Having a great partner makes such a huge difference!

Jess November 10, 2018 at 9:42 am

Michelle has been through so much this year all while trying to keep a positive outlook and Dylan has been with her every step of the way cheering her on. I’m so proud of them as a couple, they truly deserve this ❤️.

Melissa Rhodes November 10, 2018 at 11:33 am

A beautiful and touching story of a couple who grew stronger together through a trial. I am so thrilled to hear how positive they both have been and the support they share to one another.

Sarah November 10, 2018 at 7:45 pm

You’ve been a true inspiration. Both still finding the good in each other and loving each other. Great read!

Ben Skillings November 11, 2018 at 5:24 am

Deserving at this point seems more like an understatement. Michelle and Dylan NEED this. Best of luck you two and thanks for embracing vulnerability!

Robert manery November 11, 2018 at 8:20 am

You are so deserving of this prize, good luck.

Martina November 11, 2018 at 5:23 pm

Such a beautiful and real love story!!

Danielle November 12, 2018 at 9:45 am

Inspirational to read how positive and supportive this couple is during difficult times.

Katie November 12, 2018 at 5:47 pm

It is inspirational to see how you were able to find a deeper bond and use such a difficult period in your life to grow as a couple. You are so lucky to have found such a supportive partner… and he is very lucky to have found you, a true warrior. Thank you for putting your story out there to help opthers!


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