My boyfriend and I met 3 years ago using the dating app, Tinder. Just a few hours before we matched and started chatting, I wanted to delete my dating apps due to the amount of, for lack of a better word, ‘losers’ I had met. I was looking for someone who wanted a genuine respectful relationship, not a Netflix and chill ‘relationship’. It was within the first few minutes of chatting with him, I just knew he was different. A few hours into conversation later, we exchanged phone numbers and funny enough, I did delete every one of my dating apps that night and never looked back.
Fast forward to Fall 2017. I started to get really ill and was bouncing from doctor to doctor, trying to figure out why I was so sick and having debilitating pelvic pain. I had to stop working and go on disability as my health and quality of life deteriorated. After a lot of research and doctor visits later, I was diagnosed with a bladder condition called Interstitial Cystitis/Bladder Pain Syndrome, Endometriosis and Pelvic Floor Dysfunction. Although these conditions aren’t life threatening, they are chronic and cause daily pain along with debilitating ‘flares’.
2018 has been a really difficult year for me personally but I would not be where I am today without my boyfriend. On top of my physical pain, mental health has been difficult to maintain as I cope with significant life changes but he has been my number one supporter from day one. He pushes me to get through the bad days and continuously tells me how strong I am and that I will get better. When I told him that I wanted to create my blog platform for women living with pelvic pain to be able to educate and create awareness and my dream of creating a pelvic health studio, he didn’t laugh or give me excuses for why it wouldn’t work, he supported it without hesitation.
When I got my diagnosis, I got scared and began to doubt that he would not want to be with someone who has a chronic illness. At one point, I even told him he is free to leave but he never did and we are still here and stronger than ever. I tell him almost daily how grateful I am to have someone as great as him in my life, and I never take anything he does for me for granted. A real positive that has come from being ill, is that it has shown me how my partner would react in the most trying times come the future. It’s been a massive eye opener to see that our relationship has been changed and affected by all this, but we have become closer and stronger as a couple.
Featured Couple: Michelle & Dylan
Story Teller: Michelle @the.happy.pelvis