Can’t Agree On A Baby Name? Read My Strategy.

written by Trisha Stone

I know some of you have a baby name picked out and you’re not even pregnant yet!

Sometimes that name sticks and you’ll end up using it. But a lot of us change our minds once we actually get pregnant – or our partner vetoes the name we’ve always loved – and we have to pick a new one.

It’s so hard to pick the perfect baby name, right?! It’s a lot of pressure. They are going to have that name FOREVER! So we put so much pressure on ourselves to pick the perfect name. And then on top of that we both have to agree on it.

When I was pregnant with my first baby we didn’t know if it was a girl or a boy so we had to come up with both options (and then with the twins we had to come up with both options again!) I remember coming up with lists and lists of names. Chris would veto them one after another until he said maybe just to make me stop.

I don’t remember the exact names but this is an idea of what our conversations were like every night:

Me: What do you think about “Ava?” Chris, “No.”

Me: “Elle?” Chris, “No.”

Me: “Penelope?” Chris, “No.”

Me: “Olivia?” Chris, “No.”

Me: “Adelaide?” Chris, “No.”

Me: “Zoe?” Chris, “No.”

Me: “Noelle?” Chris, “No.”

Me: “Isabella” Chris, “No.”

Me: “Madison?” Chris, “I don’t know, maybe.”

I would read baby name books, lists of the most popular, most unique, best traditional, top “whatever” baby name list I could find on Google. I was even reading the credits of movies for name ideas. Chris, on the other hand, was just vetoing names. It was SO frustrating.

After months and months of this we had finally narrowed it down to two options for a girl and two options for a boy (and we each wanted different names). We agreed that we would decide which name to go with once we “saw what the baby looked like.” As though somehow that would make a difference. Really, we just couldn’t agree so we were putting it off.

My labor was not too bad. An hour and half of active pushing so I was exhausted but other than that it had gone pretty smooth or as expected.

I remember the doctor put our baby on top of my stomach. I looked down but I was so dazed, in shock by the fact that a little person was laying there that I didn’t have time to look or ask whether the baby was a boy or a girl. Chris was also in shock, cutting the umbilical cord and he didn’t say anything.

The nurse said, “Can I take HER?”

And I said, “It’s a Girl?!!”

I’ll never forget that moment.

I remember Chris was going to go out and tell our entire family in the waiting room the news but before that we had to talk about her name. We had two options for a girl, Juliette (Jules) and Avery. I wanted Avery.

I said, “What do you think we should name her?”

He said, “She looks like a Juliette.”

I said, “I don’t know what she looks like but I like Avery.”

Chris is VERY stubborn and this was the easiest debate I have EVER won. I think he was so emotional from everything, so thankful we were both ok, so grateful for what I had just done that he just said “Ok.” We finally decided!

Avery Patricia Stone

So That’s My Tip: If you can’t decide, and you’re the one delivering, wait until right after the delivery to get the name you want, lol. In the meantime, try not to stress out about it. Every kid has a name.

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